Tang Wan was the wife of the famous Southern Song poet Lu You. Lu You married Tang Wan when he was in his twenties, and their relationship has always been good since then. However, Lu You’s mother did not like her daughter-in-law very much and even ordered Lu You to divorce Tang Wan. What is the reason for this? It is said that because Lu You’s mother felt that Tang Wan had delayed Lu You’s future, and Tang Wan had been nowhere to go, Lu You’s mother helped him find another wife from the Wang family. Once, Lu You and Tang Wan met while visiting the garden. However, they both had new families, and Lu You still sent Tang Wan a song called “Hairpin Phoenix”. Although they couldn’t be together, their relationship never ended.
When it comes to Lu You, people will think of many of his famous poems, which had a great influence on the development of literature at that time. Modern people also highly admire Lu You’s works, and his talent has infected countless people. However, such a talented person was quite unhappy in his love life. He married his beloved woman Tang Wanzhi back then, thinking that they could love each other until their old age, but later ended up breaking up. This trauma not only dealt a significant blow to Lu You at that time, but also a lifelong regret for him.
So why did Lu You separate from Tang Wan? In fact, this is directly related to his mother, and the fundamental reason is that if it were modern, it might not have caused their tragic love story. In fact, Lu You and Tang Wan got along very well since childhood, and later became husband and wife naturally. Lu You was only twenty years old when they got married, and their relationship remained very good after marriage, making them an enviable couple. But at that time, Tang Wan failed to see the hidden crisis behind this marriage, which was Lu You’s mother.
In fact, whether in ancient or modern times, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has always been a major challenge and an unsolvable issue. Although Tang Wan was deeply loved by Lu You, all of this became a fox like embryo in the eyes of Lu You’s mother. Tang Wan was also a beautiful woman, so the conflict between Lu You’s mother and Tang Wan deepened day by day. Due to the reasons of Lu You’s mother, he had to endure the pain and divorce Tang Wan. Later, he married Wang Shi, and Tang Wan also found a home in the future. In fact, the reason why Lu You’s mother doesn’t like Tang Wan is because she has always had high expectations for her son. Therefore, when she sees Tang Wan and Lu You being close and unenthusiastic together, she naturally considers her son’s future as the starting point. Moreover, there is another reason why Tang Wan is very talented. She is always surrounded by many young men around her, which makes Lu You’s mother very disgusted. Gradually, Tang Wan has become a standard fox spirit in her heart.
Moreover, in ancient times, people attached great importance to passing on the family line. At that time, Tang Wan and Lu You did not get pregnant after getting married, which was a big deal for Lu You’s mother. There is another theory that suggests that the relationship between Lu You’s mother and Tang Wan’s mother is actually very bad, so considering all these reasons, she acted to sabotage her son’s marriage. Although both of them had their own homes after parting ways, when they met again ten years later, Lu You knew that he could never forget Tang Wan, so he created the famous song “Hairpin Phoenix”. In the future, he returned to the place where they met again multiple times and wrote many poems, but things had already changed and Lu You could only sigh with helplessness in the poems.
